Stop dancing to negative tunes

When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.

I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.

I was living in an isolated world.

It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.

What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.

I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.

“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”

– Nhat Hanh

Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.

If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?

Yes, you guessed right!

You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.

These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.

Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.

What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?

keep calmWill you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?

No!

Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.

ignore negative peopleNot going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.

Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.

We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.

In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

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Flip the Coin and be Positive

Every coin has two sides. Flip the coin in the air, it may either turn up head or tails. Depends on luck, doesn’t it? Life has two sides as well. One side reflects Glad and the other, Sad.

Glad and Sad. Happiness and Unhappiness. Smiling lips or Frowning eyes.

Life flips us daily in the air. Unlike the coin, which side it will come we can not say but how to react under such situations, depends on us and not on the luck. We can mold ourselves in these conditions. Situations can be fruitful which leads to a productive day or it can be unfruitful which further leads to acarpous day.

Here, whatever could be the result, situation and how we design them depends on us. Tackling these situations and reacting accordingly are in our hands. Diverting from negative to positive way depends on our mind.

Sure-and-positiveyWe often curse our luck and start believing we are here for no reason and whatever we will start doing or whatever we will indulge into, outcome would be negative.

So this morning, say for example, you thought this above written lines and guess what!

With your start, you have already initiated your journey downwards just like running downhill. The faster you try to run, sooner you will fall down and result?

I will be visiting you in the hospital soon.

Life flips us too. If it is Glad we are happy, smiling and energetic and we will accomplish all heights. On the other hand, if it’s Sad, don’t allow your mind to take you in negative direction. It’s like driving the car on nasty zigzag road. We drive cautiously, patiently and reach our destination safely.

So don’t worry, Flip the coin.thinkpositive

Heads (Glad) – Yes my day is going to be awesome.

Tails (Sad) – Wow my day is going to be incredible.

Say loud in front of the mirror and act like a lion.

Result – Crystal clear. What you think, you become and act accordingly. Positive things will start happening. Simple is that, isn’t it?

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Filter out pessimists and be an optimist

One fine evening, you are feeling a bit low and have fallen into deep thought. The door bell rings and as soon as you open the door, you find yourself surrounded by your happy and energetic friends. Suddenly, you have drastically changed from a leafless plant into a fruitful one. You feel a surge of energy!

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People are Optimistic, Pessimistic, Positive, Negative and the list goes on. These people make our society and we are a part of it.

Daily we are surrounded by many people across our periphery. It could be our friends, loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. They all have different attitudes, nature, and behaviour. Some like us and some dislike us. Some are jealous of us while others feel energetic with our presence. Few in the society motivate us, few of them demoralize us and obviously some remain neutral.

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Whoever the people are and whatever their likes and dislikes are it is us that will decide who we surround ourselves with.  Who makes us happy?  Whose company makes our day brilliant or gives us positive vibrations? Such people create ripples in our life and make our environment pacifying and tranquilizing.

We must always associate with people who make our day brilliant and should filter those people out who drain our energy and bring feelings of unhappiness. If we keep hanging onto these anti-social elements, it not only drains our confidence but also injects negative pulses inside our sole and makes us pessimists.

Have you ever seen a big tree laden with beautiful flowers? Have you ever observed a lake overwhelmed with lotuses? These germinate when given optimal conditions and proper care in a suitable environment. Similarly, we grow smarter, better and ingenious in our optimal conditions. We become superlative and positive when we spend our precious time with energized people.

Surround with Positive People

A team does better and gives their best performances when all team members are enthusiastic and support each other. Praise each other’s work and respect it. Even one member in a team can spoil the team’s spirit and that will reflect in individual performances.

“A bad fish can spoil the whole lake.”

Filter out such pessimists, negative sources and uproot them from your life. Soothe your heart with the ecstatic, energetic and positive people and mix their energy with your soul and heart and make yourself a powerful and influential personality, full of energy like a bulldozer.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Edited and forwarded by Mr. Jeff Botch