It was a summer noon and classroom was jam packed. Teacher was busy in showing the exam papers. She was calling the names of every student one by one and the student had to stand-up and she would speak the marks. Few students passed in her exam and few students (like me) failed.
“Aviral”, she called my name irritatingly. As soon I stood up, she stared at me suspiciously like I just murdered someone.
She shouted, “Aviral you are failed.” She repeated this sentence twice. It dint pinch me when she spoke these words angrily. “Aviral, you simply can’t pass this academic year. You never concentrate in class.”
I dint utter a single word. She continued aiming relentless words at me. “Aviral, you are nothing and you are a GONE CASE… A GONE CASE (She repeated deliberately). You cannot do anything in life.”
This time it pinched me. I felt like someone has brutally stabbed knife in my heart. I broke down. I was shattered into pieces.
This is just one example. I have been criticised a lot in my whole life especially in my teenage days. Those days I used to ask myself, Why me? Like all kids, I was too a soft hearted and emotionally weak. I wouldn’t be lying if I say that thousands of times I found myself crying.
Was I really a weak person?
Yes I was and believe me I have cursed myself several times when I was immaturely young.
As the time passed by, fog of negativity in front of my eyes started lifting and things got much clearer. Things started becoming transparent from translucent.
Unfortunately, I was wrong. I was lucky and a blessed child as I faced such situations in my early ages. Had I not faced these tough conditions, I would have never learned from life and critics.
It made me stronger, strong like a rock. It made me mentally tough and a matured person. It taught me how to react in such conditions and especially how not to get outburst. I learned from my life and learned from others’ lives as well.
“We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope.”
– Martin Luthar King Jr.
We should never get upset or lose our confidence and faith from the tough times and especially from tough-to-handle people. They are temporary. It makes us strong not physically but most importantly mentally. We must learn to control our mind and heart. As I believe, emotions and sentiments are most important part and it must be kept preserved only for our loved ones.
I am still learning from my day to day life and now am very confident in handling such situations. I am thankful to god who made me strong at a very right time.
Just to Epitomise:
Never get disheartened or get panic from tough conditions and egoistic people. They teach us in a long learn. Always wear smile on your face no matter what problems you face. Think and be patient and act smartly.
Keep Smiling…. 🙂
People say, this world is full of millions of people with their mixed emotions. If I will ask you to categorize the types of people according to their emotions and the way they behave, how many categories will you draw?
Hundreds? Or thousands? Putting population in mind, may be billions.
If you will ask me to categorize into different categories, I will divide them in to just TWO categories. (Obviously I may be wrong as it depends on person to person.)
According to me, there are 2 types of Person in this world….
- One who listens, other who speaks.
- One who understand and learn the Life lessons at right time, others whom Life teaches the lesson.
- One who learn from others Smartness, others who behave themselves as Smart.
- One who learn from others Mistakes, other who learn from their own Mistakes.
- One who enhances Satisfaction, others who enhances Frustration.
- One who don’t react to Critics and their Criticisms, others who overreact.
- One who controls Anger, others who get controlled by anger.
- One who Smile in every situations, others whose smile depends on their moods.
- One who enhances Positivity, others who suppress Positivity.
- One who accepts own Mistakes, others who Blame.
Finally, I can draw two categories, one I call it Mature-Optimist and other I call it Immature-Pessimist.
Which category you come into?
Keep Smiling.. 🙂
When we were kids, we enjoyed every moments of our life. When we grew older and entered in teen’s worlds, we got to know a bit about life like a newly born bird comes out of nest and face the dirty world. We started feeling minute level of pressures especially in exams or our so-called-love-life as we indulged ourselves in our love though it was just an infatuation.
As soon as we enter in the world of professionals and corporate we got the real taste of life. When we got married and have family we got to know the word ‘Responsibility’.
When we wake up in the morning we feel fresh and morning dew and fragrance make us rejuvenated. As the day proceed and things keep coming on us, our mood starts fluctuating. Cause of fluctuation may be office work, relationships, family or any external forces. Whatever the reason be, it spontaneously changes our mood and we feel disheartened or happy.
When we talk this at macro level, we call it Life.
Life is like a roller coaster ride. It gives you bumps at every interval.
Rather than taking it as a frightening experience, we must take it as a learning experience. We must enjoy the ride like we enjoy a roller coaster ride.
I love it when I feel pressure. I love it when I pass through bad phase. I love it when some irrelevant weeds crop up in my life.
Because these, teach me lessons. I learn a lot, examine others and try to find out how to react on these circumstances and trust me this is extremely helpful for our future when we may (obviously will) face bigger issues than today. At that time, we can link to those issues with we faced earlier in life which gives us hint for the optimum solution. It gives us energy to handle the pressure. It teaches us to stay calm in these tougher situations and our maturity level increases.
I personally, have seen many matured people who react weirdly when they face tough situations. They start blaming, shouting and sometimes start badmouthing. You must have seen big politicians, celebrities reacting to media. You guessed right, who enjoys the game and who gets trapped, we all know.
I won’t say, they lose their temper after getting bombarded with these bad happenings, rather I would say they get trapped by these situations. Guess what, we keep repeating the mistakes going forward and never learn.
In these tough situations of life or controversies we must never:
- Lose temper
- Get panic
- Get frightened
- Speak abruptly and
Just stay calm and be silence for the time being. Take a deep breath, hold it, count 10 and release slowly. Do it for three times and you will get a solution and feel relaxed.
Go to a calm serene place and think twice, thrice before uttering a single word because harsh words can ruin someone’s life and yours for sure.
These are just temporary and will leave but if not handled properly and smartly will give you a deep impact on your life.
“Thank you for life, and all the little ups and downs that make it worth living.”
- 4Ps can change your life (cherrypositive.com)
- Life is like a roller coaster (humorunstoppable.wordpress.com)
Life is all about learning and implementing. We start learning from our childhood and become smart kids even before we enter into the so-called ‘Teenage Years’ or we get smashed by life and learn from our experiences.
Learning from books, from parents or from experiences give us an identity, a unique personality which puts us in a different league, a league of smart intellectuals which not only enhances our professional lives but also makes our personal lives livable and inspirational.
From the very start of our life, we must inject positive thinking. Whatever situations we fall into, we must always be calm and patient. We must not panic or ever lose hope, no matter what the results are.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.
Yes, reading between the lines is quite easy but practically it is not as easy or simple as it seems especially in our learning days or when we were kids. Even when I was a kid I never thought about negative or positive impacts on lives. I never allowed my mind to get indulged with positive attitudes, so how can I expect a small kid to have these embedded into theirs. Basically we never cared about these ecstatic words.
My father always told me, ”You must always greet your elders in the morning with a smile and must respect your relatives and friends.”
Similarly, we can have a positive approach for every problem we face with a Smile. Mr. Jeff Botch, a prolific and passionate writer and inspirational personality says, “From the moment a person wakes up in the morning they have a choice to have a positive attitude or a negative attitude. Personally, I wake up and tell myself that I am going to have an awesome day! I try to smile at people I pass and greet them with a positive greeting. We have an obligation to pull people up rather than drag them down with our negative expressions and attitudes.”
Nicely and beautifully said, I continue to mention in my articles that smiling has an enormous strength which can make a person energetic instantly (Read my article, Smile has Greatest Wavelength). We have a responsibility to pull our neighbors up by complementing. It rejuvenate us.
Mr. Jeff Botch, Regional Sales Manager by Profession has created a development plan, coined ASAP Model. Obviously it doesn’t stand for ‘As Soon As Possible”. It is a Development Formula created by Mr. Jeff which enhances our personal development, stands for “ATTITUDE, SELF DEVELOPMENT, ACTION AND PERSISTENCE”.
In addition to this, I call it the “Fabulous 4” and every word directly depends on the other. If even one is missing then it directly impacts our life which further reflects on our Family/Society. We determine our attitude which develops us not externally but from internally and that can be seen in our actions and to achieve this we need to be persistent and consistent, just like a great player in his or her sport.
“Staying Healthy and Consistent is paramount”
– Shawn Johnson
We have to be disciplined in our actions, in our attitude and have patience and always keep smiling. It is not a one day or one year or one decade process. It is a Life Process. We have to be a consistent player throughout our life and when we become consistent we enter the league of legends like Mahatma Gandhi, Maya Angelou and Martin Luther King, Jr. to name a few.
Always try to learn as much as possible and make your life a blast, an inspiration to others and never forget to smile in every situation.
Keep Smiling.. 🙂
- Attitude is Fulcrum of Our Life (cherrypositive.com)
- Smile has Greatest Wavelength (cherrypositive.com)
- Be an Epicenter of Happiness (cherrypositive.com)
- Life is Puzzle, Crack It. (cherrypositive.com)