When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.
I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.
I was living in an isolated world.
It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.
‘What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.
I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.
“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”
– Nhat Hanh
Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.
If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?
Yes, you guessed right!
You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.
These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.
Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.
What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?
Will you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?
Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.
Not going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.
Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.
We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.
In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?
Keep Smiling…. 🙂