Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.
Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?’
Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress”
As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?’
I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?’
She responded affirmatively.
I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.’
You guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.’
Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.
Don’t we? 🙂
Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.
These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.
Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?
I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.
We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.
They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.
On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.
And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.
Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.
Keep Smiling… 🙂