Life Lessons I learned from Nelson Mandela

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  1. Never compromise your principles.
  2. Learn how to build yourself. Keep building your image and keep learning.
  3. Never disrespect any one.
  4. Learn to talk more about ‘We’ and less about ‘I’.
  5. Always trust your fellows. It builds unity and strengthen the team.
  6. Always preserve your best for best time and best people. It helps in making current and future organization.
  7. Always forgive people for their mistakes. When Nelson Mandela won 1994 elections, instead of punishing his enemies who hurt him in the past, he made them his friends and thus earned their respect and devotion.
  8. Always have a good heart as well as a good mind. The combination is always best.
  9. Always conquer your fear and be fearless.
  10. Always be humble.
  11. Always admit your mistakes.
  12. Always Smile. Nelson Mandela is known for his big smile when meeting with people all over the world.
  13. A good leader always lead from behind and put others in front, especially in good and best of the times. Take the front line only in bad and tough times to save your team.
  14. Talk with Love, Respect and Politeness.

Finally,

quoteKeep Smiling… 🙂

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Expect Less, Respect Dress

Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.

Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?

Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress

As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?

I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?

She responded affirmatively.

I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.

dont expectYou guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.

Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.

Don’t we? 🙂

Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.

These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.

Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?

I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.

We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.

They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.

On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.

And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.

Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

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Shaping your Attitude – Jeff Botch

Everyone of us can learn from our seniors, mentors and those we admire.  Every day is an opportunity to learn.  One of my inspirations, whom I admire and respect is Mr. Jeff Botch from San Diego, USA. He is a talented writer, personal development coach and a sales professional.

Jeff BotchIt is with great pleasure that I share with you today, the wonderful prolific writer who invented The ASAP Model along with hundreds of motivational articles and published his book, “BIG FEATS” on children’s development.

Mr. Botch says that the determining factor in how your days, weeks, months and years will ultimately play out is directly related to your attitude.  If you choose not to shape your attitude than what you are ultimately doing is giving other people and situations the ability to determine the outcomes in your life.

Below are 3 action steps he offers that you can use to take control of your attitude.

1. Affirm “Today is going to be MY day,” when you wake up in the morning.

today is my dayIf you are not someone who has bought into affirmations yet than you are going to need to change your thinking. Affirmations are simply a way to program the types of outcomes you desire into your sub-conscience mind. The simplest way to explain the power of affirmations is using the example of that 1st song you hear in the morning. If you wake up to a clock radio and hear some corny song you’ll likely be humming it all day long. By affirming the same positive thought into your mind from the moment you wake up you’ll surely be replaying it throughout your day and ultimately giving your sub-conscience mind the ability to manifest the result.

2. Smile at everyone!

be_nice_and_smile_to_everyoneTake this as a challenge and try to make good on it for an entire day. Everyone that you make eye contact with should receive a smile from you. This simple change from not smiling to smiling at everyone will not only brighten up the other person’s day but it’ll change the way your day unfolds.

3. Let drivers merge in front of you when you have the opportunity. You should have a couple opportunities every trip you take. By focusing on this simple act, you’ll start to change your mind frame from that of “What’s in it for me?” to “How may I serve?” When you start to think of the other person and honestly care about their needs you’ll start attracting the things you want into your life.

truthfulAccording to Mr. Botch, these are 3 simple action steps that will help you to begin shaping your attitude and he offers them as a challenge to you.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Forwarded and Edited by Mr. Jeff Botch