Expect Less, Respect Dress

Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.

Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?

Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress

As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?

I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?

She responded affirmatively.

I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.

dont expectYou guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.

Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.

Don’t we? 🙂

Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.

These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.

Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?

I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.

We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.

They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.

On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.

And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.

Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

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I WANT Happiness

People across the globe are dying to GET Happiness.

People across the society WANT Happiness.

People across the proximity NEED Happiness.

What have you observed while reading above pasted three sentences?

You must have observed that I have emphasized on words like ‘GET’, ‘WANT’ and ‘NEED’.Positive Thinking Quotes: Quick 400+ Successful Quotes in Images to Boost Your Self-Esteem & Confidence Everyday

Why I have emphasized these words with caps? Okay, before we talk about these, let me tell you one small story about the great Buddha.

One day an exhausted man from his life went to meet God Buddha. He belonged to a rich family and had all comforts in his life.

He irritatingly shouted in front of God Buddha, and said, ‘Lord, I have been blessed with a big name, fame, beautiful family but still am not happy with my life.’

He screamed in pain, ‘I WANT Happiness’.

i want happinessLord Buddha smiled and said politely, ‘First remove ‘I’ that is Ego. Now remove ‘WANT’- That’s Desire.’

Now you are only left with ‘HAPPINESS’.

Happiness is around you. You can never be happy when you trying to satisfy your own ego as you are saying ‘I want Happiness’. How?

First, when you use ‘I’ then it shows that you are self-centric. I want Happiness. I want this. I want that.

A person with self-centric can never be happy.

To be Happy, you must give.

happinessFor Happiness, you must share love and positive emotions. You must help others unselfishly. And when you share your love and smiles you receive immense satisfaction which makes you happy.

Second, when you use words like ‘Want’, ‘Need’ etc. then it shows your ego and desires which you Zen-Joyare trying to satisfy.May be by hook or crook. Or in worst case, by hurting anyone’s feelings.

Can you grow roses on a barren dead land? No. Similarly, Ego and Happiness can never accompany.

Be unselfish, give and share your love, smiles with everyone. Help others. And see the life changing results.

Lastly, what makes you happy?

Tough time makes you Strong

It was a summer noon and classroom was jam packed. Teacher was busy in showing the exam papers. She was calling the names of every student one by one and the student had to stand-up and she would speak the marks. Few students passed in her exam and few students (like me) failed.

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“Aviral”, she called my name irritatingly. As soon I stood up, she stared at me suspiciously like I just murdered someone.

She shouted, “Aviral you are failed.” She repeated this sentence twice. It dint pinch me when she spoke these words angrily. “Aviral, you simply can’t pass this academic year. You never concentrate in class.”

I dint utter a single word. She continued aiming relentless words at me. “Aviral, you are nothing and you are a GONE CASE… A GONE CASE (She repeated deliberately). You cannot do anything in life.”

This time it pinched me. I felt like someone has brutally stabbed knife in my heart. I broke down. I was shattered into pieces.

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This is just one example. I have been criticised a lot in my whole life especially in my teenage days. Those days I used to ask myself, Why me? Like all kids, I was too a soft hearted and emotionally weak. I wouldn’t be lying if I say that thousands of times I found myself crying.

Was I really a weak person?

Yes I was and believe me I have cursed myself several times when I was immaturely young.

As the time passed by, fog of negativity in front of my eyes started lifting and things got much clearer. Things started becoming transparent from translucent.

Unfortunately, I was wrong. I was lucky and a blessed child as I faced such situations in my early ages. Had I not faced these tough conditions, I would have never learned from life and critics.

It made me stronger, strong like a rock. It made me mentally tough and a matured person. It taught me how to react in such conditions and especially how not to get outburst. I learned from my life and learned from others’ lives as well.

“We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope.”

– Martin Luthar King Jr.

We should never get upset or lose our confidence and faith from the tough times and especially from tough-to-handle people. They are temporary. It makes us strong not physically but most importantly mentally. We must learn to control our mind and heart. As I believe, emotions and sentiments are most important part and it must be kept preserved only for our loved ones.

I am still learning from my day to day life and now am very confident in handling such situations. I am thankful to god who made me strong at a very right time.

Just to Epitomise:

Never get disheartened or get panic from tough conditions and egoistic people. They teach us in a long learn. Always wear smile on your face no matter what problems you face. Think and be patient and act smartly.

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Soul vs Ego

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