Hammer Makes Us Tougher

Which one you would like to have at your home or office, a simple Rock or Sculpture?

A simple rock seems to be useless and has no value while statues decorate our homes.

It takes thousands hammerings, patience and time to make such Incredible and Unbelievable piece.

Sculpturers engrave and scratch at micro level to make it more beautiful and priceless. People can even pay thousands of dollars for these carved sculptures.

You must be thinking, why I am talking about sculptures here.

These above written sentences are synonym of our Life.

Life is full of Hammerings, which can be from Society, from Critics or from Colleagues or Peers at workplace.

All fingers are not same. Every day is not a Sunday.

Similarly, Life is full of Troughs and Crusts. And we have to pass through many transformations which makes our life Priceless and Worthy.

God tests our life.  We always have to pass through various downfalls in our lives and directly or indirectly have to deal with them.  Just like a sculpturer hammers rock to give it a beautiful shape, life hammers on us to make us Stronger and Tougher.  We should never get worried and frightened from such instances in our lives.

Rather, we must prepare us mentally fit and courageously withstand these obstacles with determination. We have to be calm and patient and should never surrender ourselves. It makes us mentally tough and injects confidence going forward in our life. It gives the most precious thing, Experience. We become smarter and sharper. These are life lessons and we must learn from them.

The more we receive such blows and knocks from our critics and society, the more we get tougher internally which makes us consistent. Living in the comfort zone is the biggest risk we actually take.

“If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”

– Erica Jong

It’s like hammering on us mentally and putting pressure on ourselves. If taken positively and courageously, we get to learn a lot from these downfalls.

Never get worried from such deterioration and never get collapsed from such knocks. An error can dismantle the statue into pieces; similarly a negative impact can destroy our life. Failures are part of life which if taken positively, gives us a ray of hope, make us a better and valued person.

The more hammers we get in life, the better, valued and respectable we would be.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

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How to Tackle Your Critics

When we were born, first we received was Love and Smiles from our parents, relatives and family friends. When you opened up your eyes in this wonderful world, people around you got excited and greeted you with love and care.

In the midst of love and affection, there was something waiting for you desperately. We human being coined this ‘Criticism’.

Just imagine, you are sitting on an ecstatic beach in a wonderful evening and reading your favourite book. Sun is about to set, and waves and breeze are making your moment out of the world. Suddenly you hit by some disturbance, it could be a natural calamity or some manmade hindrance. Anything which convert your peaceful twilight hours into unfriendly and make you furious. How will you feel or react?

Source: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/constructive-criticism-is-a-sign-of-your-potential/

Criticism is just like such unwanted, demoralizing weeds which makes our day or life miserable and break us emotionally and we feel like our confidence is being crushed into pieces.  No matter what we feel or how we react but people across enjoy our fall and believe me it gives them internal satisfaction and fulfil their egos.

Critics and Criticism, two simple words but these two words will surely smashes your life down.

Critics have criticised greatest leaders, sports personalities who have achieved impossible and list goes on and on. Not a single person is left out.

When a goalkeeper retires, people talk about his/her misses not the great saves s/he has made in career.

I have been criticised numerous times in my life and now am used to it. Actually now I love being criticised. Being a kid, my teachers, society have always criticised deeply and crushed my feelings. And this made me Strong, Mentally tough and I learned tackling them.

Take Criticism as a Pinch of Salt and we must convert it into Positive factors or Learning steps.

We must learn to handle our critics, their criticism, blame games, dirty tricks. People want you to react and waiting desperately for your mistakes. They enhance your mistakes.

Try these bellow listed steps to simply avoid them, learn from them and move on.

1. Never React/Argue – I blame you and you blame me twice. Game goes on and never come to an end. Finally we are the loser.

Say for example, you are in meeting or talking to your peer. If s/he is blaming you or criticising you, suddenly you come on aggressive mood and react. Never React or Argue. They are actually provoking you to react. And once you are caught in their web, at the end of the day you are the loser.

2. Never show Emotions – In such dirty games, if you outburst, you are finished. Try to control your emotions as much as possible. I believe emotions are beautiful thing and it must be kept for our family and loved ones not for critics.

3. Always be Silent – Never speak or interrupt them in between their unwanted talks. If you do, guess what, it hurt their egos. They are wasting their energy so better let them waste. Why we waste our by speaking or arguing? We must learn where to speak and where to be silent.

4. Wear Smile – Just smile when they are criticising. Don’t say a single word. Just wear smile on your beautiful face. Believe me it will break their Confidence and Morale.

5. Listen – Stay calm and calmly listen to them. If possible jot down their positive ideas in between negative atmosphere. As I always say, filter out negativity and take positive notes.

6. Forget after you leave their Territory – If you are still thinking about their blame games and criticisms then my dear friend they have won their battle. It may make you depressed, heartbroken and you feel low. After leaving, just simple flush out from mind and simply forget about everything. Go for a cup of Tea or some refreshments with friends and change your mood. If possible forgive them.

I have observed on various occasions, we get trapped in critic’s tricks and start reacting, arguing. They want us to react. They provoke us. If you are trying to prove something then at the end of the day they will have the last laugh. Believe in yourself, not what others say about you.

The best reply for any Critics and Criticism is BE SILENT and AVOID SITUATIONS.

Finally, I would sign off with this wonderful quote:

“Words are heavy thing, they weigh you down. If birds could speak, they couldn’t fly.”

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Dont Let Your Smile Extinct..

Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” 

– Mother Teresa

Today we are moving with pace in our super chaotic life. We are over burdened with our professional lives, responsibilities and our life is swinging between home to workplace and workplace to home, just like a pendulum. And in such fast life, our life has actually slowed down which reflects on our face.

A Smiling Face! I am scared of its extinction.

Smile, Smile and Smile. It is the most priceless gift we human beings have, which will change our lives for sure.

Always Smile to your Critics especially when they are criticising you.

Your Smiling face will actually make them feel a Loser.

Smiling face is inversely proportional to Critic’s happiness.

Never get excited by their dirty tricks. As they want you to get excited and react. They always try to provoke you. Never ever do. Simply Smile, Listen to them and filter out all irrelevant and redundant words and leave their place and forget.

You will land in an extreme satisfaction as your heart is pure like water.

Smile is the best medicine. It not only refreshes us but also helps us to gain our lost momentum.

I never get excited or frustrated in bottle tight situations. Rather I keep my mind calm and listen to energetic songs (If I can) and try to solve the problems. Yes, I always laugh and smile on such incidences. The best way to overcome negative instances is close your eyes and think about your humorous and sweet incidents which you spent with your family and friends. Or watch comic videos.

Believe me, you will feel energetic and observe a sweet smile on your face which will give you confidence. And till this you would have left that negative effect far behind.

It gives us positive energy and makes our mind fresh which gives us strength to think effectively and spontaneously. And Results are Crystal Clear.

So always wear beautiful smile and face the world. Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral