When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.
I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.
I was living in an isolated world.
It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.
‘What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.
I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.
“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”
– Nhat Hanh
Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.
If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?
Yes, you guessed right!
You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.
These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.
Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.
What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?
Will you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?
Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.
Not going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.
Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.
We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.
In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?
Keep Smiling…. 🙂
People say, this world is full of millions of people with their mixed emotions. If I will ask you to categorize the types of people according to their emotions and the way they behave, how many categories will you draw?
Hundreds? Or thousands? Putting population in mind, may be billions.
If you will ask me to categorize into different categories, I will divide them in to just TWO categories. (Obviously I may be wrong as it depends on person to person.)
According to me, there are 2 types of Person in this world….
- One who listens, other who speaks.
- One who understand and learn the Life lessons at right time, others whom Life teaches the lesson.
- One who learn from others Smartness, others who behave themselves as Smart.
- One who learn from others Mistakes, other who learn from their own Mistakes.
- One who enhances Satisfaction, others who enhances Frustration.
- One who don’t react to Critics and their Criticisms, others who overreact.
- One who controls Anger, others who get controlled by anger.
- One who Smile in every situations, others whose smile depends on their moods.
- One who enhances Positivity, others who suppress Positivity.
- One who accepts own Mistakes, others who Blame.
Finally, I can draw two categories, one I call it Mature-Optimist and other I call it Immature-Pessimist.
Which category you come into?
Keep Smiling.. 🙂
“The nearer you go towards the light, bigger the shadow becomes.”
Same goes with the word Criticism. If you are planning to do something great and incredible, which can drop an impact on the world then you have to cross a lot of barriers and obstacles and these barriers are living bodies, called Critics and obstacles which they throw on you are coined as Criticisms.
– Wole Soyinka
We must never take these sharp criticisms so seriously. They are temporary and can be easily overcome if taken them smartly and carefully. I have seen many people in my professional as well as personal life who get carried away by these irrelevant criticisms.
Here are the simple yet very powerful tips to avoid CRITICISMS:
- Filter out negative and absorb the positive words
- Don’t concentrate on the harsh parts of critics
- Keep your mind calm and don’t get excited
- Smile when people bombard on you
- Stop thinking when critics leave your place or you leave theirs
- Change your mood and fresh up your mind
- Forget and forgive
Isn’t that simple?
Believe me, I always follow these points and no one can destroy my confidence. I simply love facing critics and as I said earlier, if taken smartly we can learn a lot from them and their harsh speeches. It builds our strength and makes us strong.
– LeBron James
Receivers are always been beneficiary than givers. Be a strong receiver and learn as much as from these negative givers and turn your life into positive.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”
– Dale Carnegie
Don’t trap yourself inside the room. Open the windows of your heart and keep your mind broad and deal smartly.
Criticisms if taken wisely become blessings in disguise.