How do you react or mold yourself, when tasks or heavy work is dumped on your shoulders?
Lets go through this simple yet motivational (actually fictional) story about birds and their wings. It may give you some direction.
There is a fable about the way birds first got their wings. The story goes that initially they were made without them. The God made the wings, set them down before the wingless birds and said to them, “Take up these burdens and carry them.”
The birds had sweet voices for singing and lovely glittering feathers that glistened in the sunshine, but they could not soar in the air. When asked to pick the burdens that lay in their feet, they hesitated at first. Yet soon they obeyed, picked up the wings with their beaks and set them on their shoulders to carry them. For a short time the load seemed heavy and difficult to bear, but soon, as they continued to carry the burden and to fold the wings over their hearts, the wings quickly grew attached to their little bodies. They quickly discovered how to use them and were lifted by the wings high into the air with gentle pressure.
This is a parable for us.
We are the wingless birds and our duties and tasks are the wings. God uses to lift us up. He tests us with these tasks. We look at our burdens and heavy loads and try to get rid of it, but if we will carry them and tie them to our hearts, they will become wings. And on them we can then rise and soar toward acme, towards success.
These heavy burdens when lifted cheerfully with love in our hearts, will surely become a blessings to us. God intends for our tasks to be our helpers; to refuse to bend our shoulders to carry a load is to miss the new opportunity for growth. No matter how overwhelming any burden God has lovingly placed with his own hands on our shoulders is a blessing.
We must never run away from tasks, duties and responsibilities as they make us. Running away from them is not a solution but it is like missing a better opportunity.
The Story credit – Unknown Author.
Relationships are always most important factor of our life. Family, Friends, Loved ones, Colleagues, Acquaintances etc are Oxygen of our life. Without them, our life is life is like a tree without leaves.
- Free yourself from Negative People
- Let go of those who are already gone
- Give people you don’t know a fair chance
- Show everyone Kindness and Respect
- Accept people just the way they are
- Encourage others and cheer for them
- Be your Imperfectly Perfect self
- Forgive people and move forward
- Do little things everyday for others
- Always be Loyal
- Stay in better touch with people who matter to you
- Keep your Promises and tell the Truth
- Give what you want to receive
- Say what you mean and mean what you say
- Allow others to make their own decisions
- Talk a little less, and Listen more
- Leave petty arguments alone
- Pay attention to your relationships with yourself
- Pay attentions to who your real friends are
- Ignore Unconstructive and Hurtful commentary
“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”
- Anthony Robbins
- Relationships (orlandoespinosa.wordpress.com)
It was a summer noon and classroom was jam packed. Teacher was busy in showing the exam papers. She was calling the names of every student one by one and the student had to stand-up and she would speak the marks. Few students passed in her exam and few students (like me) failed.
“Aviral”, she called my name irritatingly. As soon I stood up, she stared at me suspiciously like I just murdered someone.
She shouted, “Aviral you are failed.” She repeated this sentence twice. It dint pinch me when she spoke these words angrily. “Aviral, you simply can’t pass this academic year. You never concentrate in class.”
I dint utter a single word. She continued aiming relentless words at me. “Aviral, you are nothing and you are a GONE CASE… A GONE CASE (She repeated deliberately). You cannot do anything in life.”
This time it pinched me. I felt like someone has brutally stabbed knife in my heart. I broke down. I was shattered into pieces.
This is just one example. I have been criticised a lot in my whole life especially in my teenage days. Those days I used to ask myself, Why me? Like all kids, I was too a soft hearted and emotionally weak. I wouldn’t be lying if I say that thousands of times I found myself crying.
Was I really a weak person?
Yes I was and believe me I have cursed myself several times when I was immaturely young.
As the time passed by, fog of negativity in front of my eyes started lifting and things got much clearer. Things started becoming transparent from translucent.
Unfortunately, I was wrong. I was lucky and a blessed child as I faced such situations in my early ages. Had I not faced these tough conditions, I would have never learned from life and critics.
It made me stronger, strong like a rock. It made me mentally tough and a matured person. It taught me how to react in such conditions and especially how not to get outburst. I learned from my life and learned from others’ lives as well.
“We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope.”
- Martin Luthar King Jr.
We should never get upset or lose our confidence and faith from the tough times and especially from tough-to-handle people. They are temporary. It makes us strong not physically but most importantly mentally. We must learn to control our mind and heart. As I believe, emotions and sentiments are most important part and it must be kept preserved only for our loved ones.
I am still learning from my day to day life and now am very confident in handling such situations. I am thankful to god who made me strong at a very right time.
Just to Epitomise:
Never get disheartened or get panic from tough conditions and egoistic people. They teach us in a long learn. Always wear smile on your face no matter what problems you face. Think and be patient and act smartly.