Everyone of us can learn from our seniors, mentors and those we admire. Every day is an opportunity to learn. One of my inspirations, whom I admire and respect is Mr. Jeff Botch from San Diego, USA. He is a talented writer, personal development coach and a sales professional.
It is with great pleasure that I share with you today, the wonderful prolific writer who invented The ASAP Model along with hundreds of motivational articles and published his book, “BIG FEATS” on children’s development.
Mr. Botch says that the determining factor in how your days, weeks, months and years will ultimately play out is directly related to your attitude. If you choose not to shape your attitude than what you are ultimately doing is giving other people and situations the ability to determine the outcomes in your life.
Below are 3 action steps he offers that you can use to take control of your attitude.
1. Affirm “Today is going to be MY day,” when you wake up in the morning.
If you are not someone who has bought into affirmations yet than you are going to need to change your thinking. Affirmations are simply a way to program the types of outcomes you desire into your sub-conscience mind. The simplest way to explain the power of affirmations is using the example of that 1st song you hear in the morning. If you wake up to a clock radio and hear some corny song you’ll likely be humming it all day long. By affirming the same positive thought into your mind from the moment you wake up you’ll surely be replaying it throughout your day and ultimately giving your sub-conscience mind the ability to manifest the result.
2. Smile at everyone!
Take this as a challenge and try to make good on it for an entire day. Everyone that you make eye contact with should receive a smile from you. This simple change from not smiling to smiling at everyone will not only brighten up the other person’s day but it’ll change the way your day unfolds.
3. Let drivers merge in front of you when you have the opportunity. You should have a couple opportunities every trip you take. By focusing on this simple act, you’ll start to change your mind frame from that of “What’s in it for me?” to “How may I serve?” When you start to think of the other person and honestly care about their needs you’ll start attracting the things you want into your life.
Forwarded and Edited by Mr. Jeff Botch
When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.
I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.
I was living in an isolated world.
It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.
‘What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.
I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.
“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”
- Nhat Hanh
Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.
If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?
Yes, you guessed right!
You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.
These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.
Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.
What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?
Will you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?
Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.
Not going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.
Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.
We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.
In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?